What do you want most right now?
To be thinner?
To have financial freedom?
To find your soul mate?
These might look like very differing desires on the surface, but in the end they all boil down to the same thing.
Ultimately we all want to be happy.
We think “if only I had [insert desire] then I’d be happy”.
But the truth is that happiness is an emotion, and emotions change.
They can’t help themselves. It’s in their nature, because they’re part of life, and life is movement.
Life is absent in inertia.
This means, that by definition, it is impossible for you to be happy all the time.
Luckily, this also means that its impossible for you to be sad all the time, but I digress.
What I’m trying to get at is that your surface desires, the things you think you want, change all the time too.
As soon as you get something you want, a new desire pops in to replace it.
And this is because your underlying desire, to be in a state of perma-bliss, has not been met.
And it has not been met because it is incompatible with life.
Even if you got every. single. thing. you’ve ever wanted, you still wouldn’t be happy all the time.
So what’s the point of, well, anything?
Simply put, the reason you can never achieve your fairytale is because without some sort of dissonance there is no storyline.
It’s the very conflict that you’re trying so hard to avoid that makes your life interesting and worth living in the first place.
You need something to push against in order to grow, otherwise you end up in a free-fall with nowhere to go.
So the next time you are disappointed, or frustrated, or sad, don’t shy away from those emotions.
Let yourself truly feel what you’re feeling in your body.
Express it through your body.
Let it move through you so it can move out.
Housed in those uncomfortable spaces are the exact forces that will propel you toward the contentment you’re actually looking for.
But remember, even when outside circumstances do bring you a moment of scrumptious happiness here and there, it is by its very nature a temporary state.
The trick is to enjoy the journey. Find a way to embrace the challenge.
Yin and Yang have the seed of the other nestled inside them.
Even when everything seems to fall into darkness, there is always a sweet drop of light to be found.
And that drop can expand into divine grace, if you open yourself up to the full experience.
Just don’t cling to the idea that Good-Looking-Thing #559 will be the one to bring you lasting happiness, because it won’t.
What you’re looking for is already inside of you.