On the surface it looks like our society is obsessed with transformation.

Fashion magazines love to show weight loss stories, TV shows sponsor thousands of makeovers, and the American dream itself advocates a change of circumstance.

Unfortunately, if you take a closer look behind these idealistic images, you find millions of people who aren’t transforming, but instead feel stuck and dissatisfied, wishing that they had a better life.

When you feel stuck and dissatisfied, you go through life with a passive acceptance.  You become convinced that you’re a victim of circumstance, and you assume that forces outside of yourself are in control of your destiny.

But these assumptions are just plain false, and what’s more, they’re dangerous.


When you blame people and events outside of yourself for the way things are in your life, you are giving away your power.

No, we can’t choose the family we were born into, and yes, unfortunate things do happen in life. We don’t have superpowers to completely control the world around us, and we all experience suffering as an innate part of the human condition.

But if you think the buck stops there, my friends, you’re cutting yourself off from the world of endless potential in which we live.

If you’re unhappy with the way things are going for you, you have to consciously act to change your attitude.

You have to recognize that you had an integral role in everything that has ever happened to you, and that you will continue to do so until you die.

You might not be able to decide how events unfold directly, but you have a bigger influence on your life than you might think.

Even when things happen that actually are entirely out of your control, you still have the power to choose how you react, and the reactions you choose have a profound reverberation through the rest of your life.


If you want things to be different, you have to do things you’ve never done, in ways you’ve never done them.

In other words, if you act out the same habits, the same eating patterns, the same reactions to things that happen to you, you’re going to get the same results you always have.

You can’t keep living under the burden of your past if you want to harness your power over your own life.

You can’t blame your parents, your spouse, your job, the government, or society at large. In fact, you can’t blame anyone outside of yourself.

If you are really honest with yourself, you can’t deny your own involvement and claim that circumstances are entirely beyond your control.

Because they’re not.

If you really want your life to change, you have to remove the old cobwebs of disappointment and regret, heal old wounds, and move forward.

You have to set clear intentions for how you want your life to change.

You have to open doors and say yes where you would usually say no.

You have to get out of your comfort zone and cultivate a sense of adventure.

You have to recognize your old habits and mindsets and consciously change them to better serve you.

You have to choose to embody the reality that you want to manifest.

You have to take action if you want to see results.

If you’re not happy with your life, you have to stop blaming and start doing.


You already have this power within you, it’s your divine right as a conscious and sentient being on this planet. 

You just have to choose to use it.



Did you like this article? Then I’d like you to do 3 things:

1. Think of someone you know who could use some inspiration and motivation and share this article with them on their facebook wall.

2. Leave a comment below stating one way in which you’d like your life to change and which behavior you’re going to change this week to get you closer to your goal. It doesn’t have to be big, even just noticing your thoughts can be an important step in the right direction.

3. Take action and report back how it went.





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